dad...you're a discoball

dad...you're a discoball

Random bits of a single dad

Maybe it’s the weather…

As my kid becomes more independent and (self) involved in his own life (outside of me), it becomes increasingly harder to stay engaged at the level I’ve been at for years. 

Far too many days I’m just tired and so tempted just to coast. But these adolescent years are the most important to stay present. 

Must…stay…engaged….

After being humid/hot as balls last week and having a gross/rainy weekend, it finally dipped into the upper 20s here last night. It’s one of those quintessential sunny “stick season” Vermont days. I gladly put the liner back into my jacket to walk to my office (i.e. coffee shop) this AM.  Happy Monday y’all.

After being humid/hot as balls last week and having a gross/rainy weekend, it finally dipped into the upper 20s here last night. It’s one of those quintessential sunny “stick season” Vermont days. I gladly put the liner back into my jacket to walk to my office (i.e. coffee shop) this AM.  Happy Monday y’all.

My boys are really pretty.
So good to have this big guy here this weekend.

My boys are really pretty.

So good to have this big guy here this weekend.

Friday Five
- Finn and I played a quicky game of Scrabble this AM. We’ve been playing almost everyday and it’s super fun (lots of nerdy Scrabble smack talk).
- Travel was intenso this week. It was incredibly productive and it feels great to be part of a kick ass team. After last week’s news, I had to step up my charm/schmooze game and make sure we didn’t lose any clients. And we didn’t!
- Speaking of intenso, Finn has been going through some rough stuff lately. He’s fine, but I can’t help but think the hormones of teenagery are starting a bit earlier than I anticipated. Depending on the morning, I can have happy-go-lucky Finn or emo existential crisis Finn. 
- It’s been bloody hot and humid in Vermont since I got back on Wednesday. It is October!!!  World meet hell in hand basket. 
- Despite all this…Work is good. Finn and I are good. The Fall is the most beautiful I’ve ever seen. We are just figuring it out as we go along and how to make it all work. Some days I feel like I’m flailing and suck at this life shit while other days I feel like I rule at it.  I guess I get tired of the missteps and detours (mostly based on my own decision making) that make things more difficult than they should be.  That balance of consistency and growth/change is a tough one. 

Friday Five

- Finn and I played a quicky game of Scrabble this AM. We’ve been playing almost everyday and it’s super fun (lots of nerdy Scrabble smack talk).

- Travel was intenso this week. It was incredibly productive and it feels great to be part of a kick ass team. After last week’s news, I had to step up my charm/schmooze game and make sure we didn’t lose any clients. And we didn’t!

- Speaking of intenso, Finn has been going through some rough stuff lately. He’s fine, but I can’t help but think the hormones of teenagery are starting a bit earlier than I anticipated. Depending on the morning, I can have happy-go-lucky Finn or emo existential crisis Finn. 

- It’s been bloody hot and humid in Vermont since I got back on Wednesday. It is October!!!  World meet hell in hand basket. 

- Despite all this…Work is good. Finn and I are good. The Fall is the most beautiful I’ve ever seen. We are just figuring it out as we go along and how to make it all work. Some days I feel like I’m flailing and suck at this life shit while other days I feel like I rule at it.  I guess I get tired of the missteps and detours (mostly based on my own decision making) that make things more difficult than they should be.  That balance of consistency and growth/change is a tough one. 

Truth
laughingsquid:

An Amusing Comic by Doghouse Diaries About the Opportunity Costs of Life Decisions
Finn came home on Thursday telling me he had started another short story. I asked him what it was about and he told me he only had the first line. Ever since he has been obsessively writing; including since 6AM this morning.  He got into my bed with his computer and wrote for an hour before I got my tired ass up.
I’m headed off to the left coast later today to attended a conference I absolutely abhor. Luckily I’m only going for a couple days this year.  Rather than my usual wandering around aimlessly in a sea of suits, I will mostly be meeting with and charming the pants off of clients with my biz partner in the wake of yesterday’s news.
I wish I got more excited about traveling than I do. I just feel like I miss too much life when I’m away. Work doesn’t get done. Connecting with Finn at the end of the day doesn’t happen. Eating well is elusive. Exercise is nonexistent. Output doesn’t equal input anymore…so I return depleted and it takes me too long to get back into our routine.  

Finn came home on Thursday telling me he had started another short story. I asked him what it was about and he told me he only had the first line. Ever since he has been obsessively writing; including since 6AM this morning.  He got into my bed with his computer and wrote for an hour before I got my tired ass up.

I’m headed off to the left coast later today to attended a conference I absolutely abhor. Luckily I’m only going for a couple days this year.  Rather than my usual wandering around aimlessly in a sea of suits, I will mostly be meeting with and charming the pants off of clients with my biz partner in the wake of yesterday’s news.

I wish I got more excited about traveling than I do. I just feel like I miss too much life when I’m away. Work doesn’t get done. Connecting with Finn at the end of the day doesn’t happen. Eating well is elusive. Exercise is nonexistent. Output doesn’t equal input anymore…so I return depleted and it takes me too long to get back into our routine.  

Let’s not kid ourselves here. We are both charming, wicked smart, good-looking and have amazing hair. We have nothing to worry about.
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To my (female) boss/partner about my co-director leaving to start her own competing business and potentially taking big clients with her.

Perhaps one of the more cocky things I’ve ever said. 

As I told my sister…this was by far my favorite of all her weddings…and chosen grooms.  I’m so very thankful for these two crazy people in my life.
penelopethechug:

Today is Treat Lady and Alpha Male’s Anniversary! After previous failed marriages, they both never thought they would tie the knot again. Then Alpha woo’d Treat Lady with his mad dance skillz and the rest is history. Never say Never!

As I told my sister…this was by far my favorite of all her weddings…and chosen grooms.  I’m so very thankful for these two crazy people in my life.

penelopethechug:

Today is Treat Lady and Alpha Male’s Anniversary! After previous failed marriages, they both never thought they would tie the knot again. Then Alpha woo’d Treat Lady with his mad dance skillz and the rest is history. Never say Never!

Finally starting to feel things are normalizing after epic crap week last week. However getting all gussied up for meetings is not my norm.. Or comfort zone.

Finally starting to feel things are normalizing after epic crap week last week. However getting all gussied up for meetings is not my norm.. Or comfort zone.

Rose-colored morning.  I love this time of year.

Rose-colored morning.  I love this time of year.

This fucking week!

Amirite?

GPOYW - The goofy grey morning edition.

Not really much to say (hence the lack of posts recently). We’ve just been enjoying the Fall and our day to day routine. 

Happy October y’all.

A Fall day in bullets

  • 4am - Wake up (stupid brain)
  • 6am - Already have drunk all the coffee 
  • 7am - Work out and sweat major balls
  • 9am - Help friends move
  • 2pm - Epic hike with an epic friend (IT’S FALL IN VERMONT PEOPLE!!!)
  • 5pm - Nap
  • 8pm - Dinner (quite possibly a homemade mac and cheese cook off)
  • 10pm - Dancing to my fav 80s cover band
  • 2am (Sunday) - Die from exhaustion
  • 6am - Wake up again (because my brain is still stupid).
So glad to be home.

So glad to be home.