Finn was in and out most of yesterday afternoon with a friend. Later in the day, I met up with him at the school playground where his friend’s mom was hanging out with a bunch of other kids as well. Somehow she (who I will mention here is married with two kids, one of whom is Finn’s BFF) and I started talking about dating and sex, which eventually led to me telling her I have a vasectomy. You know the typical parent playground conversation.
After I told her I’d been snipped (“Three offspring is enough in my book!”), she told me her husband would NEVER do that. At first I thought it was the typical male fear of having someone cut into their junk and responded that it was actually incredibly easy and mostly painless (if you follow the doctor’s orders and not do anything physical for a week). And she told me that wasn’t the issue at all, but rather he believed he would be “spiritually and cosmically cut off from his man energy.” No really…this is what she told me!
I can’t figure out if this is most amazing bullshit excuse I’ve ever heard (major props man!) or if this guy really believes that his Vas deferens is his sole conduit to connecting with his masculinity and the universe at large. I really (really!) try to have an open mind to how others see and operate in this world. However, I’m having a truly hard (hehe) time believing that cutting this little tube from my balls to my dick disconnects me my manhood and ultimately makes self actualization nearly impossible.
From a merely physiological/biological perspective I don’t get it: Every day my testicles are still producing crap loads of sperm and my other glands seem to have no shortage of spunk quantities. And from a spiritual/psychological one - and maybe I’m simply short sighted and stunted in this realm - but being snipped has given me a peace of mind that actually contributes to me becoming the man I aim to be. It should be said, I approach life as a journey and not a destination. On that path, I made the choice to not to have another life altering “Opps” moment - albeit I will never regret the one I had - so that I can live very intentionally and present with those in my life.